- of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials.
What we are is full of emotion and unsure how to handle it. So, when someone we care about hurts us, we're not sure how to soothe our hurt feelings or even how to communicate our feelings to the person who hurt us without also hurting them. So, what do we do? We retreat from interaction with that person because we don't know how to interact with them like a normal human being.
We're not passive aggressive we're just awkward and confused when hurt.