"Let's face it. No kid in high school feels as though they fit in." -Stephen King
Even beautiful and talented people can have trouble in High School, it's just a rough time period for a lot of us.
So, because I'm an adult whose wildly successful I'm posting these tips on how to survive high school and come out a winner, like me.
Ha ha ha..yeah, that's not why I'm posting this. At all. I'm posting this because in the YA stories that I write a lot of my main characters feel like outcasts in high school, even the ones who are considered "popular". I think everyone struggles with feelings of low self-esteem, especially in high school. So, here are a few tips on how to move past those awkward feelings and enjoy school as much as possible : )
1. Don't think about yourself- When I'd complain to my mom about my social anxiety, she'd tell me (in her thick New York accent), "Stop thinking about yourself so much Paula, think about the people around you!" When she'd say that, it would make me mad. But in retrospect, mom was totally right. When you're talking to someone if you're constantly worried about whether or not they've noticed the giant third eye that's where your mouth is supposed to be or the 50 lb booger that you think you feel falling out of your nose, you're going to come off as strange. So, instead of worrying about how your "flaws" are being perceived, really listen to the person you're talking to. Focus on trying to get to know them, be interested. When you stop thinking about yourself, people see that you're intersted in them and they open up, which often leads to the start of a new friendship.
2. Self-Expression- The emotional ups and downs that come with high school are usually pretty dramatic. They're not to be ignored or ashamed of, they deserve to be expressed. What I used to do was write stories about fictional characters who went through a lot of the same crap I had to deal with in school. For some reason, writing about them made me feel better, it was like a weight off of my shoulders. Other people draw, some paint, some make comic books, vlog, dance, etc... So, find a way of expressing the stuff that's bottled up in your head and heart, it'll make you feel better.
4. Make Sure You Smell Good- This is great advice for life in general. In this society, deodorant and light perfume or cologne is a ticket to success. Again, I know this because I'm wildly successful guys, I'm a receptionist for God's sake. Listen to me. Anyway, so in high school, there's always that one guy (or girl) who completely stinks and this makes it difficult for them to rock their high school experience in a way that is pleasant for them and everyone around them. Don't be the stink in the back of the classroom. When it comes to washing clothes, use fabric softener and dryer sheets that smell delicious, before you leave for school in the mornings, brush your teeth and make sure you have on deodorant. Also, those stupid school rules about not bringing gum and mints on campus- absolutely ignore them and bring your gum and mints.
So that's my advice. Hope it comes in handy. Later! : )
Paula's Note: my advice is usually pretty bad so you might not want to follow it. Ever!