"It's a lot more fun being a critic than being the one criticized." -Ed Koch
Out of curiosity, what's the best piece of criticism that you've ever received about your writing?
And, was it difficult for you to accept or was it delivered in a way that made it easy for you to take and apply?
A few weeks ago, I was online and came across something called THE MATCHELOR, which is a pretty cool way to get feedback on your latest manuscript. Until now, I've had very minimal feedback, so I figured this would be a fantastic way to brush up on my writing.
Well, late last week I was finally matched with the writer who would become my critique partner. She seems like a nice person and typically, I can handle criticism pretty well, so I was super-excited about the whole thing (insert ominous theme music here).
Earlier this week, after scrolling through her line by line critique of the first few chapters of my manuscript and then her general assessment, my heart plummeted and I felt numb.
The first thought I had was, "Oh my God, I freaking can't write, I'm going to be a receptionist for the rest of my life because I can't freaking write!!"
So, I had a moment of taking to Facebook and sputtering about how much unrequited love sucks (writing being the uninterested object of my affection).
Since reading my critique partner's feedback, anytime I sit down to write, I'm second guessing every sentence, not allowing myself to write. For example, last night I literally sat there staring at my computer for two hours until finally, I just gave up and started watching The Real Housewives.
This morning, before heading off to my day-job, I tried to write again but those negative thoughts came back and every word I typed felt like just another piece of garbage added to the heap of trash I'd already accumulated.
So I ended up listening to a Tony Robbins video on YouTube (I think the title might have been something like, "Don't Give Up Yet! You're Not Actually An Untalented Loser!") to pull myself together and write.
While I'm positive that at least 90% of what my critique partner suggested is good advice, I have to say that I wish her delivery had been more carefully worded.
Because of the way she expressed herself, now I have take a minute to build my confidence back up.
I'd love to know how other writers handle this, so please feel free to share your experience/thoughts ...
What's the best piece of criticism you've ever received about your writing and was it difficult for you to accept or was it delivered in a way that made it easy for you to take/apply?
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