Everyone handles defeat differently. Some people are quick to rally and they don't even view their "loss" as a defeat, they view it as a learning experience and:
1. Bounce back by analyzing what works and what doesn't in their storytelling style. They then embark on a new story (or resume their old story with a new twist) and don't stop writing and editing, and editing, and editing some more until their eyes cross but they're happy with their story. These are the writers who are most likely to win the next Pitch Wars : )
Others have a more difficult time dealing with their defeat and they:
2. Agonize over whether or not they have any talent whatsoever, decide that they do not, and take to overindulging in either alcohol, chocolate, Netflix, or all of the above. When these writers realize that they can't simply ignore their urge to write, they sit down in front of their computers and find that their self-doubt has morphed into a paralyzing disease that doesn't allow them to type. They then spend at least a week perusing YouTube for videos on, "How To Get Rid of Writer's Block". This helps a little. Then, they read something like "On Writing" by Stephen King or "Bird by Bird" by Anne Lamott and realize that they're not a bad writer, they just needed a boost. And then they get back to the work of writing...
These are the writers who end up writing stories that are refreshingly honest and relevant and able to wow Agents : )
And then there are the other writers who:
3. Go insane, creatively speaking. You know how if you repeatedly tell a little kid they're bad, eventually some part of the kid's subconscious is like, "I'm bad? Okay, fine. Then, I'll be AMAZINGLY bad!! Muwhahaha!" and before you know it the kid is coloring an entire mural on your kitchen wall? Well, this happens to some of us when we lose writing contest after writing contest. We start to think, "I'm a sucky writer? Okay, fine. I'll show you sucky writer! I'll write as much crap as possible and I WILL ENJOY WRITING IT!!!"
I'm not sure what happens to these writers, but I'm pretty sure that's the category I fall into. I'm just writing/making stuff and I know no one's going to like it and while that hurts, a part of me is tired of caring about no one liking it.
So I just write it anyway.
Hence, this and lots of stuff like this.
So, those are the three categories of "Dealing with Defeat" that I've come up with. Which category do you fit in? Or is there another one that I didn't mention?